💢I THOUGHT A LOT OF PEOPLE KNEW THIS.💢

Recently, I've been proven wrong by the things I thought a lot of people knew on the online space. I've decided to dedicate today's dose to helping us learn a thing or more about building healthy relationships with people on this space. 

Truth is, sometimes we might be our own limitation. We are busy praying for open doors but using our own hands to close the doors. God is a God of systems, He also uses people to bless you and so, it's important you learn how to relate cordially with people on this space. 

🛑Let's Begin🛑

Few days ago, one of my biological younger sisters clocked 30. I could sense the shock on my WhatsApp family gang. Someone asked, 'Ma'am Ody, does this means you are above 30?'. Of course, if one of my younger sisters clocked 30, that obviously means I'm above 30 as we aren't twins. 

She went on to say I don't look it at all especially with my baby face, skin and looks.

If you want to enjoy a cordial relationship with people on the online space, please note the following. 

🔻 Everybody is not your mate. I know the illusion the online space gives us. Since we are all content creators, we tend to think everyone is our mate. No! That isn't true. Please, respect people on this space. Just one wrong move of disrespect can cause them to push you out of their circle. Don't be deceived by your followers calling you, 'Mama, Papa, Coach, Mentor' etc. Learn to respect people. It might not matter to some millennials but I tell you this, some people raised in the 80's are still keen about the old and beautiful virtue of respect. 

Sometimes, it isn't just how good you are but your manner of approach. There are some people I've worked with and vowed not to ever work with them irrespective of how good they are or will get. 

🔻No need to make this point long. When people lend you money on this space, kindly return it back to them. If a 'stranger' trusted you enough to lend you money, be wise and pay up without creating drama. 

🔻Everyone on the online space is not jobless. When sending messages, go straight to the point. I thought a lot of people knew this until I kept getting just, 'hi' from someone I thought should know better. The shocking part was sending just hi around 2am. Please, so that you don't go ahead to label people proud and the rest, just make your message detailed so that it is easier to respond to you.

🔻Mind the way you join online drama. I know a lot of people love drama but if you are building a brand, please be careful. You must not use harsh or hateful words because you disagree with people. You just have to learn to be tactful. When two influencers are clashing, resist the urge to openly insult one over the other. You might think you are supporting your fave but trust me, these people know how to reconcile thereby leaving you 'hanging'. 

It's like the supporters of politicians who insult themselves only to wake up one morning and see these politicians dancing together and hugging themselves. 

🔻Don't abuse access. The fact that you have your mentor's number or the number of people you look up to doesn't mean you should abuse access. These people are extremely busy and when they notice you always disturb them without putting into practice what they teach, it won't be long before they start seeing you as a pest.

Also, don't be in a hurry to share an information they haven't yet shared. 

Some are extremely private with their personal life. Always check out with them before putting out some information the public do not yet know about them.

🔻Watch the things you share on this space. 

It's not enough to quickly delete posts, I tell you this, it takes less than a minute for your posts to be screenshot. Those posts can become banana peels in the future. They can drag you back at a critical point when you need to desperately go forward. It's bad enough that you are sowing some wild oats, you don't have to do the sowing for the whole world to see. 

Even the posts you react to should be checked. I keep saying this, 'Others can, you can as well but you shouldn't.' 

🔻Reciprocate the kindness you receive from people on this space. 

As much as it lies within you, try to return the kindness received. Of course, there would be times you just can't return it but what I mean isn't even in monetary terms. When people launch your book, don't turn a blind eye when they are launching their books. If you are broke at that moment, look for other ways to be of help.

Don't always be an expert in receiving favours but never returning same. 

🔻Don't wait until you have a need before you remember people.

I'm usually so shocked when I get some funny messages from people asking me to share their books or write about their books. Some end it up with, 'you inspire me a lot. Your doses leaves me speechless' and the like. I'm left wondering why they have never bothered to send these messages until now. Why wait until you need a favour? Register your presence in people's heart by your comments, shares etc. That way, when they finally see you in their inbox asking for a favour, you will be responded to pleasantly as your name rings a bell already. 

🔻Lastly for now, tread with caution on this space. Mind the things you say to people.

Please, be prayerful before you let people into your life. It's not enough to think they are all they claim to be on this space. 

The fact that 'uncle's' post is all centred on kindness and the love of God doesn't mean he doesn't have sins he might be struggling with. 

I've always said this that people can love God and still have strong sexual addictions or other vices they are struggling with. 

Don't get careless and get hurt in the process. 

You might decide to drag him or her here but that wouldn't heal the emotional and physical wounds you would have inflicted on yourself. 

Be spiritually alert when letting people into your life.

 

Finally, Know that there is also a life outside social media.