Marriage Advice, I Am In A Relationship With A Single Mom, Please Advise Me

Hello Cliff, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 36 currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 28 years old. To say she is pretty is an understatement, bro she is gorgeous and perfectly endowed in the African ways.

I am an IT consultant and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with guys lol (I managed to woo her through a church

member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 24, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.

I cannot accept another man's child no matter what, I love the mother but not the child. The connection is just not there because the boy isn't of my character, I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train another man's child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her dead body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

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